How To Quiet Naysayers & Haters
By George L. Rosario, Bible Based Business Consultant at GC Rosario Group
Do you know what’s a guaranteed way to have negativity hurled at you? Get busy. Launch something new. Do more than others are doing. Do more than you’ve ever done. See, negative feedback has more to do with those dishing it out than with those receiving it.
I started my first business at the age of 16. It wasn’t anything fancy. I didn’t even have a store front. It was a fitness/self defense course I taught in Coney Island Brooklyn. I taught this course on the beach. The day I announced I was going to launch this freelance business, many people, including many members in my own family said it was foolish and it would never amount to anything. As a matter of fact, a few people who I once called friends showed up to make fun of me a few times.
Less than a year later, I took my clients to a local dojo and sold the sensei my book of business for a hefty profit. The sensei had 22 students when I walked into his dojo. I brought him 48 more. Not bad for a business that the haters and naysayers tried to discourage me from starting. Best part yet, a couple of the original haters were in the 48 people who I brought to the dojo. They went from being doubters to being believers.
Grant Cardone posted a great blog post on his website titled “Why Haters Hate” that explains that “In fact, remember that there has NEVER been a successful person who wasn’t criticized, hated on, or underestimated.” A Hater in this example is the person who is driven by negativity, often born out of jealousy and feelings of inadequacy. These are the people who hate on your dreams because they don’t have the 2 Timothy 1:7 level of courage to go after their own dreams. Grant went on to make 4 very strong points about Haters. Haters are usually quitters; Haters are spectators; Haters are emotional; Never waste a Hater. I agree Grant!
I found a post on stopbullying.gov titled How To Deal With “Haters” that describes haters the following way:
“Hater is a label used to refer to people who use negative and critical comments and behavior to bring another person down by making them look or feel bad. These hurtful and negative comments can be delivered in person, online, or in texts and apps. Often, the comments and behavior are repeated over time. Haters are often anonymous (especially online) but they can also be acquaintances, peers, or people who were once considered friends.”
UrbanDictionary.com defines a “Hater” as:
“A person that simply cannot be happy for another person’s success. So rather than be happy they make a point of exposing a flaw in that person. Hating, the result of being a hater, is not exactly jealousy. The hater doesn't really want to be the person he or she hates, rather the hater wants to knock [someone else] down a notch.”
Merriam-Webster dictionary defines a Naysayer as:
“One who denies, refuses, opposes, or is skeptical or cynical about something; There are always naysayers who say it can’t be done.”
I often interchange the terms naysayers and haters when dealing with people who want to crush my dreams before they are even launched. They both operate from a place of negativity, disbelief, and often jealousy. They attack anyone trying to do anything worthwhile because they don’t believe they can accomplish what the go-getter is going for. They are the sideline critics who never step in the game but want to point out the mistakes of the competitor who is in the ring taking the hits.
I’ve learned to quiet all naysayers and haters in my life by accomplishing what I set out to do. As a matter of fact, I’ve learned to use their doubt and their negativity as fuel for my success. I’m one of those people who gets an extra push when someone says it “can’t be done.” I have won trophies, awards, and accomplish great levels of success in arenas where haters and naysayers told me I didn’t belong. The trophies, awards and success were satisfying, but not as satisfying as the look on their faces when they realized their negativity did not deter me.
Now, I don’t want you to think that it was their hate I was focused on. I was not focused on their criticism. I can honestly say that I pushed myself to win because I love them. I love naysayers and haters. I genuinely do. See, I know that if they doubt, and then they witness me succeed, some of them will give themselves the permission to go for their own dreams and goals. Success is contagious to those who allow themselves to be exposed to it.
Did you know that until 1954, it was believed that man could not break the 4 minute mile barrier? The four-minute mile is the completion of a mile run in four minutes or less. It was believed to be impossible until Roger Bannister achieved it in 1954, at age 25. His exact time was 3:59.4. This impossible barrier has since been broken by over 1,400 athletes, including some high school students, and it’s become the standard of professional middle distance runners. Roger Bannister’s success in breaking the impossible four-minute mile barrier gave others permission to do it themselves.
Another great outcome, one that came as a surprise when I first started my life as an entrepreneur, is when a hater or a naysayer becomes a fan, a supporter or better yet, a venture partner or investor. Talk about doing a full 180! I’ve learned that when you turn haters into friends, or naysayers into believers, they become your strongest and most loyal supporters. See, when you repent (change your mind), it changes your heart. And when your heart is changed, it cannot go back to the way it was. My ex-haters and ex-neysayers often become my loudest cheerleaders and walking billboards.
So, whenever you run into a hater or a naysayer on your journey to achieving a goal, don’t reply with hate. Walk away without arguing or trying to convince them of anything. They are not receptive to your vision, and since it’s not their dream, they don’t have to see it or believe it yet. Reply with love by accomplishing your goal. Let your success bring them their own vision and dreams. Let them say, “if he can do it, I can do it too.” Be the example that gives an unbeliever the courage to believe that the impossible is actually possible. See, the impossible is only so until someone proves it is possible.
Will your success help everyone? Of course not! There are people who will witness miracles first hand and still not believe. There are people that will walk with a miracle maker and life changer and still let doubt cause them to almost drown. There are people that will need more convincing than others. And there are those that will give their whole lives up to their negativity, fear, jealousy, greed, insecurities and hate, only to end their lives in regret.
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George L. Rosario is a Brooklyn NY born & raised businessman & entrepreneur turned consultant. He started GC Rosario Group with his lovely wife Claudia. With over 30 years of service to the marketplace in NYC, George has relocated and been graciously adopted by the business community of South Florida. He now travels the country helping businesses and organizations thrive in today’s noisy environment. The post-Covid era forced many to close their doors, but also opened new doors of opportunity, growth and prosperity for innovative thinkers. George & Claudia Rosario help companies, businesses, organizations and teams develop the necessary skillset and plan of action to not just survive, but thrive in this new world. GC Rosario Group helps both secular and Christian based institutions meet their goals.